Tuesday, May 31, 2011

how do you know?

How do you know if you're ready for love? Or how do you know you are in love? It's a common dilemma many females they days are in. (Well, possibly males too, but as one of the female gender, I can only speak for us gals.)

This weekend, we saw on On Demand, "How Do You Know" with Reese Witherspoon, Paul Rudd, Jack Nicholson & Owen Wilson.

Reese Witherspoon's character, Lisa did not know if she's ready to be one of those women after a career in professional sports to just go out there, find a man, get married, have kids and that's it: to live happily ever after. And throughout the story line, she wasn't sure about the direction her life should be heading and with whom. So ultimately, how do you know?

I think this film was hilarious and really speaks to the point of how a woman feels, generically. I honestly do not know why it flop at the box office, especially with such a great cast ensemble.

So how do you know? Regarding love, everyone is different. It is a moment in your relationship that there's a "spark", a feeling in your heart (not only your stomach) that felt warm and aching at the same time. Some people say there's butterflies in their stomachs, but that will happen many times in your life, and doesn't necessarily happen only when you're in love. It is when you can imagine visually spending the rest of your life with this man, that's when love happens. I don't believe in love at first sight, but I believe that you're infatuated with the person at first sight. Love takes much more. It takes the little things, as well as the big things. Your heart will know before you, if you're in love. Your actions will tell you, before you mentally know that you're in love. If you notice that you want to spend time with the person constantly or when you want to share every thought you have and when you can talk freely to him, like he's not there; that's when you know. I may not be the wisest person out there, but as a person who's been in love and is still in love, these are my two cents.

There are many books out there that dissects the female and male mind and emotions. I say don't waste your money, because everyone is different. Possibly these books speaks of the majority of the gender, but there will always be an exception, and that exception is what brings two people together. And know that "happily ever after" is a state of mind and that a relationship takes work from both parties. But know that with love, that's the first step.

Regarding direction in your life, you will never be 100% sure if it's the right choice, but the point is, you will never know if it's wrong until you try. I'm still trying, but at least I know that I have someone to share that frustration with. And don't keep asking yourself, "How do you know?", you'll be so engrossed in asking, that you might miss it, even when it's staring you in the face.


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