Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Became Parents by Gary Chapman with Shannon Warden

Title:  Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Became Parents
Authors:  Gary Chapman with Shannon Warden
Publisher:  Moody Publishers
Release Date:  September 6, 2016
Genre: Non-Fiction: Parenting

Dr. Gary Chapman has helped millions prepare for marriage.
Now he helps you prepare for kids.

Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents has one goal: prepare you to raise young children.

Dr. Gary Chapman—longtime relationship expert and author of the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages—teams up with Dr. Shannon Warden—professor of counseling, wife, and mother of three—to give young parents a book that is practical, informed, and enjoyable.

Together they share what they wished they had known before having kids. For example: children affect your time, your money, and your marriage—and that's just the beginning. With warmth and humor they offer practical advice on everything from potty training to scheduling, apologizing to your child, and keeping your marriage strong… all the while celebrating the great joy that children bring.

From the Preface: "Our desire is to share our own experiences, as well as what we have learned through the years, as we have counseled hundreds of parents. We encourage you to read this book before the baby comes, and then refer to its chapters again as you experience the joys and challenges of rearing children." — Dr. Gary Chapman

" can't always predict what will happen, but you can always find hope in your circumstances." (15)

Hope. That is what I have in picking up Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Became Parents by Gary Chapman with Shannon Warden. The above words from Dr. Warden in the introduction of the book spoke of why I want to read books on parenting, when at the moment, I am not a parent yet.  I guess you could say it's perfect timing, because now I know things before I am a parent.  And this book gives you just that, knowledge, information and communicative tips through the "talking it over" section at the end of each chapter. I should be an expert by now! Just kidding. Not even close. One of the main points I got out of Things I Wish is the very fact that it can never be measured. Parenting is hard, even chaotic at times, but children are blessings and they are living beings. They mold, model and eventually strive to be who they are themselves.

Topics like budget, schedules, discipline, emotional health and social skills makes up for just a handful of the topics discussed, each taking up one chapter (there's a total of 12 chapters). Each chapter is easy to read with personal questions for discussion or self discovery at the end. Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Became Parents are straightforward and information.  I appreciate that it's written in simple terms in a natural matter that isn't preachy, but still modeling Christian beliefs throughout. I can imagine myself rereading this periodically if I am a parent.

Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book from the author/publisher. I was not required to write a positive review, and have not been compensated for this. This is my honest opinion.

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GARY CHAPMAN--author, speaker, counselor--has a passion for people and for helping them form lasting relationships. He is the #1 bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages series and director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. Gary travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. For more information visit his website at

TO CONNECT WITH DR. GARY CHAPMAN:  website,  facebook,  twitter

DR. SHANNON WARDEN is an assistant teaching professor at Wake Forest University where she teaches in the graduate counseling program. She is also the director of counseling and director of women's ministries at Triad Baptist Church in Kernersville, North Carolina. As a professional counselor, Shannon has counseled children, families, young adults, women, and couples since 1998 and has served as an assistant to Dr. Gary Chapman since 2003. Shannon is married to Stephen Warden and they have three children.

TO CONNECT WITH DR. SHANNON WARDEN:  email (with "Shannon Warden" in subject line), facebook, website




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